Sunday, 3 February 2008

Overcoming Loneliness

I thought I was through with my addiction to anime, but thanks to my guildmates in the fanfare guild of valhalla, it has returned to full blaze. Anyway, I'm currently streaming three anime titles at crunchyroll and animethat these past few days - Clannad, Shakugan no Shana, and Spice and Wolf.

I like Clannad for the humor, Shakugan for the action, and Spice and Wolf for the dramatic flair. Aside from nice storylines and music, there are bits and pieces of lessons/truths, which are conveyed in these anime, that got me thinking again.

Anyway, I won't delve much into those, but I'll focus on something I find in common among these three: striving against loneliness. Perhaps the reason why I'm hooked to these three anime right now is because I used to be a loner a few years back. Yeah, I know how it feels to be alone, and how it is like to be in a situation when there'd be nobody there to help you out.

I can practically feel the pain when Horo (Spice and Wolf) and Shana (Shakugan no Shana) both blurted out that being lonely is very painful. I know, I've been there. And I might say that being a loner is something I'm quite over with.

I guess the best way to overcome loneliness is to let someone else take it away from you. From all the information I had gathered regarding this condition, I surmised that the reason why people become loners is that they feel (I mean, I felt it too) that the people around them cannot be trusted. Add also the fear that opening up to others may make the person more vulnerable.

Yes, at the core of every loner's heart is a person very much afraid to be hurt.

Trusting others and regarding them as friends is a great gamble, especially if the bond of friendship is shattered one way or another. And then, the void that was supposed to be filled becomes larger, and loneliness grows. This is a loner's greatest fear.

I'm lucky enough to have ran across them, and I'm blessed enough that the bond is still strong even after all these years.
In my case, I found genuine friends who helped fill that space. I'd say that I'm lucky enough to have ran across them, and I'm blessed enough that the bond is still strong even after all these years.

At any rate, I'll still say that the best way to overcome loneliness is to be brave enough to risk everything. If things don't turn out right, one can always trust another person again, and another one until the right one comes along. Courage is at the center of every endeavor to succeed, and overcoming loneliness requires a great deal of it.

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